Nervous about meeting another Khadijah Elite member to see if you’re ideal for one another? Don’t worry; every conceivable online dating system out there has participants who are – and should be – wary about moving too quickly or oversharing. To help you maximize your safety and comfort, here are some tips to guide your potential relationship journey accordingly.
Prepare Questions to Ask in Advance
The best way to not only break the ice but also develop a better understanding of your match is, in essence, to put them to the test. This means coming up with appropriate questions to ask long before committing to a relationship. But what does this mean, exactly?
Well, good questions to ask when dating online include those that reveal any potential red flags in terms of your match’s personality, attitude, emotional stability, lifelong prospects, general interests, and desires for a possible relationship. These can all be asked in an open-minded, considerate manner that avoids prying too deeply into their personal lives without glossing over important elements about who they are.
Here are some examples to help you get started:
- What do you value most about yourself?
- What sorts of achievements in life mean the most to you?
- Do you observe fasting and/or pray regularly?
- What hobbies inspire you? (If you share any, get to know them more through these)
- What adventures are you looking forward to having in life?
- What are your views on the Islamic faith, and which elements are most important to you?
- What are your favourite holidays to celebrate with friends and family?
- Do you have any non-Muslim friends? What are your experiences like with them?
- Are you active in your local Muslim community in any way?
- What vices in a relationship do you not tolerate? (Laziness, infidelity, micromanagement, substance abuse, gossiping, etc.)
Precautions with Photos Shared
It might at first seem harmless to post a picture of yourself with your friends or family. However, do so with caution. If an image captures details that help someone find where exactly you live, then it presents a higher potential risk especially because you don’t know who might see it. Such examples include the address number on the side of the house or even your contact details.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you need to run out and get a professional photograph taken – this isn’t an ideal way to demonstrate who you are anyway. Simply avoid sensitive details out by sharing carefully chosen photos taken inside your home or away from it, such as while on vacation – these alone can be a fun and safe way to show off your personality, a favourite hobby, or otherwise!
Video Chat Safety and Controlling Phase Progression
By Phase Three of your Khadijah Elite journey, should you desire, you may engage in video chats with the other member. The fundamentals of safe photo sharing apply to this format as well; you don’t want to display anything in a frame that could give away private details or your address. And don’t forget that the female member is the one to decide when and if progression to the next phase is appropriate.
Never Give Out Sensitive Personal or Financial Information
Nobody needs to know your home address, how many others are in your household, or even roughly where in a city you might live. In addition, for obvious reasons, you should never give out sensitive details such as where specifically you are employed, your salary, or anything regarding your finances.
The focus of any online interactions with a potential match is to determine whether the two of you are right for one another – nothing else should be brought into focus. Besides that, with the Khadijah Elite journey, you won’t need to think about potentially meeting a match until Phase Four, and you shouldn’t meet for the first time at either of your homes anyway.
Want to learn more about online and in-person meeting fundamentals, or need advice on best practices? We’re happy to help here at Khadijah Elite. Contact us today to get started.